4 Tips to Win Your Ex Back
4 Tips To Get Ex Back
Breakups hurt. The emotional despair accompanying a breakup feels even worse if you are more at fault than your ex or if you caused the circumstances leading to the breakup. But, have faith. You may still have a chance to get back with your ex. A little time and patience can heal the worst of wounds. After a period of separation you may both be in a better place to reunite with each other. Consider these four tips to help you with reconciling with your ex.
Look Better. During your relationship with your ex, you may have let yourself go a little. It’s not uncommon for couples to become so comfortable around each other that they stop grooming themselves with the care and attention they once did. Now is the time to resume that care and attention, however. Get some exercise. Buy some new clothes. Shave your legs. Get a haircut. Wear makeup again. Develop a habit of presenting your best self. Your ex will notice your improved self-care and respond to you better. People like people who look good.
Communicate Briefly. Stay composed and peaceful during reconciliation. Refrain from calling, texting or emailing your ex 20 times a day. But, do stay in touch with them every now and then out of kindness and to show you still care. A text or email is a great way just to say hello and let them know you are thinking positively about them. Be sure to keep your communications brief. Refrain from sounding needy or desperate. You will know you sound needy or desperate if you feel needy or desperate. So, the best time to reach out to your ex is when you feel good.
Wait for Your Ex to Make the First Move. Let your ex set up the first meeting post-reconciliation. If you have stayed in touch briefly, then your ex will feel comfortable and safe seeing you again. If you have stalked them with dozens of phone calls each day and surprise appearances, then your ex will still feel too uncomfortable seeing you again. Let your ex determine when to meet face to face again. In the meantime, find other distractions.
Become More Interesting. Add to your life in some way. Go out with friends. Take up a new hobby. Travel. Do some soul work in retreats. Practice self-care. Get to know who you are now without your mate. Breakups force introspection and can be a motivating force to make big life changes. Also, consider dating during a breakup and during reconciliation. Having admirers boosts self-esteem and decreases neediness. Dating also reminds you of your attractiveness and desirability. When one person has your heart, it’s hard to imagine that there could be anyone else who could make you feel the same way. But time and time again people find love again after breakups. Don’t limit your prospects.