5 Good Behaviors for Getting Your Ex Back
Getting your ex back will be easier if your practice good behavior. Reconciliations can sometimes conjure hurt feelings and land two people right back in the circumstances that led to the break up in the first place. If you begin your reconciliation, however, with a commitment to practicing good behavior, you will avoid the pitfalls that inevitably handicap reconciliation.
Consider these five good behaviors when reconciling with your ex.
Accept and Let Go of the Past.
Upset accompanies breakups. It is reasonable to feel hurt for a time after a relationship ends – especially if the relationship lasted many years. At some point, however, you must stop sulking and start embracing a fresh start if you want your ex back. For the same reason many people do not move old furniture into a brand new home, it’s wise not to move old mini-dramas and hurt feelings into a new relationship with your ex. Let go of the old stuff to make room for new closeness, new friendship and new intimacy.
Positivity is sexy. People like positive people. Positive people attract good things to themselves and those they love. Stay positive about your reconciliation with your ex. Have faith in the fact that if you and your ex are destined to be together, nothing can stand in the way of your union. Trust your feelings and instincts about your ex and your relationship. Always find something positive to say to your ex every time you talk to them. Also, feel positive about yourself. Know on the inside that you have a lot to give to your relationship with your ex and that you deserve the love of your ex as much as they deserve your love.
Get a Life.
Make yourself interesting. Pursue hobbies and goals that are important to you. Spend time with family and friends. Have fun. Your world should not revolve around your ex and your relationship. Let your world revolve around all of the things that make you feel happy and empowered. Show yourself and your ex that you have a life outside of your relationship. The time apart from your ex is a good time to learn something new or travel to a place you’ve never visited. As you explore yourself and your interests, you will blossom into a different person who is happy from the inside out.
Reconciling with an ex requires patience. Trying to force your ex to communicate with you by calling, texting, and emailing dozens of times a day is the wrong answer. Give yourself and your ex some space to let things cool down. Reflect on your relationship and your part in the breakup and come to terms with what you did wrong. Plan for how you will avoid this behavior if you are able to reconcile with your ex. Rebuild your relationship one day at a time.