Be the Kind of Ex Your Ex Wants Back
Breaking up with the one you love hurts. Take some time to figure out what led to the circumstances causing your breakup. If you want to reconcile with your ex, make your best effort to be the kind of person your ex wants back without compromising yourself and your needs.
You must show your ex that you understand their needs before attempting reconciliation. Give your ex the space they need to sort through their feelings. Do not sever all ties to your ex, but do show that you understand their position. Ultimately, all people just want to be heard and understood. Relationships tend to break down when one or both partners start to feel invisible to the other. Listening to your ex and making an honest attempt to understand their needs will work wonders for your relationship. First, they will feel heard by you which will make them feel respected by you. Second, you may learn new things about your ex or see your relationship with fresh perspective now that you’re honestly listening to them. Uncovering new information could give you new ideas on what you can do to make your relationship work.
During your time apart, consider dating other people. Feeling wanted and desired by other prospects may make you more attractive to your ex. Be gentle during your dating. Refrain from sexual intimacy since you still have feelings for your ex. Giving yourself to another sexually may turn off your ex should they ever find out. Also during your time off from your relationship, give more time to yourself and your desires. Catch up on projects, pursue your goals, spend time with family and friends, exercise…do all the things you may have let fall to the wayside. Your renewed interest in your own self-care and life will distract you from the relationship giving your heart time to repair itself.
Yelling and fighting after a breakup is a turnoff to your ex and harms the chances of reconciliation. Maintaining a sense of peace and composure despite hurt feelings makes your ex feel safe opening up to you and drawing close to you again. Conversely, becoming a doormat is also a turnoff and can hurt the possibility of reconciliation. Defend your feelings but do not attack the feelings of your ex.
Get Your Ex Back, If Not Then Probably Someone Else Is Meant For You
Sometimes a little time and distance apart can help a broken relationship. If the two of you separate for awhile to consider your feelings for each other, you both may discover you still love and care for each other. In any event, stay positive and hopeful. If things are destined to work out between the two of you, they will. If the relationship has served its purpose and reached a natural end, let it go in peace. When you let go of this relationship you make room for a new relationship to blossom.