Considerations When Reuniting With Your Ex
Think you may want your ex back? Many people breakup with their mates only to discover that they miss them and want them back. If you find yourself in this situation, consider the points that follow in your efforts to woo back your ex. With a little time and patience, you and your ex can be back together again.
Prior to recommitting to your ex, make sure the two of you have resolved your differences. Whatever the circumstances were that led to your breakup, discuss them openly and let them go.
In some instances, the only resolution will be to agree to disagree. Choose this option when faced with an impasse. Time heals all wounds. Let time heal the impasses and allow yourself to enjoy reuniting with your ex again,
Also, understand where you went wrong in the relationship. A breakup is rarely the sole fault of one person. Even in cases of infidelity, the non-infidel in some way allowed or ignored the infidelity, or otherwise failed to listen to their own instincts that something was wrong in the relationship. Consider carefully where you hurt your ex or hurt yourself in your relationship and refrain from repeating those same mistakes again. Mistakes you don’t acknowledge are destined to be repeated. By admitting your fault to yourself or your ex, you atone for your mistakes and heal.
Be prepared to compromise. Consider what you will give up or how you will change to have your ex back. Relationships require flexibility. Many popular relationship experts promote the 80/20 rule: if the relationship is 80% good, then it’s all good. Focus on the 80% that is good and let the rest go. Be willing to give and take.
Remember to accept your ex with all their goodness and faults. Do not attempt to change your ex into someone different. If you want someone different, find someone different. But if you want your ex, accept their personality, habits, values and attitudes without requiring them to fit your ideals.
Make sure your ex loves and cares about you before attempting reconciliation. You can do bad by yourself – no need to add someone to your life who will only subtract from it. Trust your heart as to whether your ex still loves you and cares for your well-being. Remember that sometimes love is not enough. Ensure that you and your ex are compatible in values, wants, goals and other key areas.
Reunite Ex By Being Yourself
If your instincts tell you that you have a future with your ex, put forth the effort to make your relationship work. Envision a better future for you and your ex than your past. Focus on the positives of your ex and of your relationship. Monitor your own behavior to ensure that you are part of the solution and not part of the problem. Relationships constantly evolve. Allow yourself to go with the flow as your relationship progresses the way it needs to in order to heal.