Honoring Your Feelings When Reuniting With Your Ex
If you still care about your ex during a break-up, you will experience the pain of separation. If you think you want your ex back, then stay committed to making your relationship work.
Sometimes a temporary separation is healthy to create some physical and emotional distance while you and your ex sort through your feelings for each other. When and if the time comes to reunite with your ex, however, be sure to honor your own feelings during the process.
Under certain conditions, reconciling with your ex may be too painful. You may care a lot for your ex, but the pain of the circumstances surrounding the breakup may be too much to bear. Taking your reconciliation at a slow pace may work well to ease the pain.
Your ex may feel the same hurt and sadness that you do as well as the same love and compassion. Taking some time away from your ex to think things over may make both you and your ex remember how much you love and miss each other.
You are wise to deeply consider whether you want your ex back and what you are willing to do differently to save your relationship. Remember that shortchanging yourself or your feelings is unwise. Still, you may need to make concessions in your relationship to bring it back to life. Taking things one day at a time is the best course of action when attempting to reunite with your ex.
Empty promises will not work well during a reconciliation. The relationship will call for you to listen to and understand each other’s needs and expectations. Stephen Covey, author of 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, said that listening to a person is like giving them air. Give your partner the air they need to express their concerns and needs to you. Listen while they talk and repeat back to them what they have said to make sure you understand. Your willingness to honor them in this way will send the message that you care. During reconciliation, actions speak louder than words. So show instead of tell that you are willing an committed to making your relationship work.
After some time apart, a lunch or movie date is a great way to begin mending fences. How much time apart the two of you will need before attempting a reconciliation will depend on the circumstances of your breakup and your closeness to each other. When you do spend time together again, do keep the conversation light and comfortable.
If your ex senses no pressure or intensity from you, they may feel safe allowing themselves to miss you again. It may take time, but with a little patience you and your ex can move toward rebuilding your relationship. Rely on the friendship the two of you have and express kindness toward your ex to show that you still care.
Honor Your Feelings By Being Patient
Reuniting with your ex may be difficult, but not impossible. Just be patient, stay calm and allow your relationship to blossom again in its own time and pace.