Stop Being Separated With Your Partner And Attempt To Win Back Your Ex-Husband
Overall he was a good husband even if he left the toilet seat up a few times. Everyone else out there is a lot less interesting so you’d like him back. Win back your ex-husband; this is your next step.
Dealing with the causes of the breakup is the first thing. Was it you or him who was responsible for the actions that led to the separation or divorce? Obviously, you wouldn’t want him back if it were his actions as they are unforgivable.
How readily will he forgive you if your actions were the cause? Before the acts that incited breakup, how good was the relationship? What were the highs and lows that you both shared in your marriage?
Has enough time elapsed that it would be easy to forgive sins? As the saying goes, time heals all wounds.
Children are also a consideration if the marriage resulted in any. You might enlist their assistance if they are old enough to understand and want their father back in the home you shared together.
It could appear to him that you are ensnaring him by using the kids so you have to exercise caution.
You should avoid a crowded restaurant or a noisy bar and arrange a meeting with him at a quiet place if you are still in contact with your ex-husband. As a matter of fact, choose a place that is associated with good memories of your relationship which you both can share.
‘ I need to discuss something important with you which affects both of us but it’s not possible on the phone so we need to meet.’ This is how you can express the reason for the meeting.
Just like a business presentation, prepare what you will say and make a proper outline. After all, this event is comparatively of great importance, much more than any business meeting. Learn your lines and practice as much as possible but when you speak to him, don’t be too stilted.
Don’t forget to make a list of the reasons for getting back together. You could just ask to start dating or opt for settling on a trial period. Give him your complete forgiveness if it were his actions that precipitated the breakup. Ask for his forgiveness in the case you were responsible.
Half the battle is won if your invitation is accepted by your ex. This is because this indicates that he has no problem with talking to you or meeting you. He might have refused to meet at all if he was very resentful over the divorce.
Anything that can be construed as playing on his sympathies, pleading or begging should be refrained from. This can make it extremely hard to connect with your former husband as it is a turnoff to most people.
Having Somebody As An Intervention Can Work
You should see if you can get a third party to make an intervention if the meeting is not possible or doesn’t work. A good place to start would be to ask your priest, rabbi, pastor or any other Church official. A good mutual friend or couple who will talk to your ex husband on your behalf is another alternative.
For reconnecting with your husband, his relatives are another source that you can use. To get him to listen to your proposal, you can use enlist their aid.
If you want to reconnect with him, don’t leave any legitimate act undone or any stone unturned.