Stop Breaking Up And Start Saving And Salvaging Your Relationship
Our society is referred to being mobile. It could be because we move around a lot and have vehicular mobility or because our society seems to be in constant transition.
No matter what the source of our mobility is, it often impacts our personal interactions negatively. You can be hard pressed to find ways to save your relationship in these times.
Saving And Salvaging Your Relationship – Trying To Make Things Work
You are definitely not alone if you find that your intimate relationship is in trouble. You have to go back to the beginning and move forward from there if you wish to save your relationship with your sweetheart.
Revisit the early days of your relationship and explore what first attracted you to your partner. You should revel in the passion, intimacy and intensity of those first beautiful moments.
Give those early times a great deal of thought. Were you both ‘playing it by ear’ or did you both worked together to establish a foundation on which to build? Eventually those initial days, weeks and sometimes months of passion will fade out.
Only if you cultivate your respect for each other, mutual interests and good communication regarding everything that should be discussed by a couple, then your relationship can last for long term.
It’s kind of sad to know that some relationships continue only because you have no other alternatives and are both used to each other.
But as Yogi Berra states, ‘no relationship is over until it’s over’, so take heart. You may save your relationship with a few simple steps if you are still together.
There is something common in all fruitful and long term relationships. The couples have grown beyond the initial interaction and the falling in love stage. They end up loving each other despite the scars, bumps and warts carried by each other.
NOTE: Falling and love and being in love are entirely different. Appreciation, good communication, familiarity and respect of your partner lead to a conscious act of affection which is defined as being in love. Falling in love, on the other hand, defines a physical and emotional response to the attraction you feel for a person.
Maintaining a positive attitude about your mate is a must. You have to see the inner person and overlook the scars and warts. You should not only see but also talk about the positively. It becomes contagious like courtesy.
Make a list having two columns. One should list the positive attributes while the other lists the negative ones. Ask your partner to do likewise and then conduct a comparative analysis.
Attempt and commit to change the negative aspects as much as possible. The basis for any sound alliance is communication. So commit yourself to improve that as well.
Expand your mutual activities and interests even further. Share your friends and families, go to Church together or take another hobby or go to the health and fitness center together.
In The End What Matters Is Both Your Happiness
As the quality of a relationship is measured by how well it meets the needs of all those involved, remember that your relationship should bring joy to both of you.
All others will look to you for encouragement that good relationships are a joy to behold, fulfilling and lasting only if you follow these things.